I confess. I am weak. I watch The Bachelor. And pretty much every related show – Bachelor in Paradise, Bachelor Winter Games, you name it, I watch it. Every.Single.Episode. So this week as I watched with Bachelor Nation (gross, did I really just type that?) as bachelor Arie broke it off with fiancé Becca (on camera) to right his “mistake” in choosing the wrong woman and return to Lauren, it … [Read more...]
Why are we drawn to dating drama?
Drama. I would swear that I hated dating drama, that I wasn’t down with it, that I didn’t want it. For years the line from that Mary J. Blige song was my jam, “No more drama in my life.” And yet, somehow, despite my words, I seemed to always find myself smack dab in the middle of some dramatic, painful dating situation with some girl. Once it was avoiding a girl who I slept with one … [Read more...]
5 lessons the worst relationship I ever had taught me about red flags
It happened one leisurely Sunday. My girlfriend at the time and I had spent the day at the spa, a peace offering for an ongoing argument. We were joking around and then, just like that. She punched me in the arm. In that moment, it was as if all the drama and struggle of our relationship and every relationship over the past 15 years of dating culminated into the throbbing in my arm. Perhaps it was … [Read more...]
Where we are now: old school style dating
Below is an excerpt on old school style dating, or how we've dated up to this point as lesbians, from my book. I use it as a starting point in my book about a different way to date as women. Enjoy! KB I began my career as a teacher, and during one conference workshop I attended on science education, I heard something profound that has stuck with me over the past 17 years. The facilitator was … [Read more...]