It happened one leisurely Sunday. My girlfriend at the time and I had spent the day at the spa, a peace offering for an ongoing argument. We were joking around and then, just like that. She punched me in the arm. In that moment, it was as if all the drama and struggle of our relationship and every relationship over the past 15 years of dating culminated into the throbbing in my arm. Perhaps it was … [Read more...]
Where we are now: old school style dating
Below is an excerpt on old school style dating, or how we've dated up to this point as lesbians, from my book. I use it as a starting point in my book about a different way to date as women. Enjoy! KB I began my career as a teacher, and during one conference workshop I attended on science education, I heard something profound that has stuck with me over the past 17 years. The facilitator was … [Read more...]
Relationship Responsibility
I am humming a Rhianna song as I head for my car, swinging canvas bags dangling from my hands, proud that I remembered them. Grateful to be home from a work trip, I am headed to the store to stock my fridge, my favorite grounding activity after travel. My happy hum drifts away as I press my keyless fob to my car and nothing … [Read more...]
Starting Over
Vitality shows not only in the ability to persist, but in the ability to start over. – F. Scott Fitzgerald In the movies, when our lovely heroine stands at the intersection of some bad decisions, difficult times, and the realization that something has to change, filmmakers gives us some convenient transitions. Cue sad music as a tear rolls down her cheek as she faces her own emotional bankruptcy. … [Read more...]