I am sitting around a restaurant table overlooking the ocean with friends, talking and laughing. We spent the afternoon at the beach, lounging, talking, playing spike ball. It occurs to me that I was having so much fun that I completely forgot to obsess about the spare tire hanging over my bikini bottoms, or the way my body moved so much slower in the sand than it used to, or the fact that since … [Read more...]
Why my new motto is try less, feel more
I have learned this lesson in life over and over again. The one about how when things get difficult trying harder only makes things worse. A running injury derails my half marathon plan – trying harder to get well and heal seems to actually slow my recovery. Or worse, I run on, injured, and inevitably get worse, and take even longer to recover. A toxic job situation with a difficult colleague … [Read more...]
Why I haven’t written a word in 2 months
This is the first thing I have written in 6 weeks. Nothing happened specifically, at least nothing noticeable and profound. At first I thought I was just distracted by my day job and several tight deadlines. Then as one week turned into another and another and still no words would come, I tried changing my strategy. Rather than sit in front of a blank screen night after night, I began to read. I … [Read more...]
3 ways to take care of yourself during a stressful time
Recently I had one of those weeks where it felt like literally ever day got a little harder than the day before. I felt bombarded with various home and work projects, including long work hours, changing project expectations, and a client who is tremendously difficult to deal with. During my difficult week, I purposely avoided watching the news as I didn't need the inevitable feeling of hopeless … [Read more...]
2 Red Flags You May Overlook in Dating
I am sitting on my office floor, old journals splayed about. A quest to understand more about who I am in dating sends me alternating between taking sips of wine and holding up a journal and reading the words I wrote in my youth. As I read my own words from age 19, 22, 26, and 30 I find my grown up self surprised at the insight I had in my early years. In every relationship from those years, I … [Read more...]